It's understandable that some people are hesitant to go to therapy. There is an intense stigma against mental illness in this country. Often people think that therapy is self indulgent or a sign of weakness. The first step is believing that you deserve to be mentally healthy and that you deserve to take the time to be heard by someone who can give you support, feedback, and analysis. My approach is often cognitive-behavioral which means I'm looking at thoughts patterns and behaviors patterns that are preventing you from achieving your goals or negatively impacting your mental health. That being said, sometimes we need to look to the past to understand those thought patterns and, if the client so desires, we will process past events and traumas in appropriate ways. Therapy is more than just talking. It's coming to terms with the obstacles in your life so you can find acceptance and move forward.